Tess Holiday, who came to fame through her vocal social media views on promoting body positivity, is being criticized because of a comment she posted on an Instagram account where a husband was expressing how much he loves his wife’s imperfectly beautiful body. Her comment states, “Stop giving trophies to men for doing the bare minimum!”
With the advent of social media, following movements and the controversies that surround them in real time has allowed uncomfortable but necessary conversations to take place. On July 30th, 2017, Robbie Tripp, posted on Instagram a picture of his wife with the following caption:
|| I love this woman and her curvy body. As a teenager, I was often teased by my friends for my attraction to girls on the thicker side, ones who were shorter and curvier, girls that the average (basic) bro might refer to as "chubby" or even "fat." Then, as I became a man and started to educate myself on issues such as feminism and how the media marginalizes women by portraying a very narrow and very specific standard of beauty (thin, tall, lean) I realized how many men have bought into that lie. For me, there is nothing sexier than this woman right here: thick thighs, big booty, cute little side roll, etc. Her shape and size won't be the one featured on the cover of Cosmopolitan but it's the one featured in my life and in my heart. There's nothing sexier to me than a woman who is both curvy and confident; this gorgeous girl I married fills out every inch of her jeans and is still the most beautiful one in the room. Guys, rethink what society has told you that you should desire. A real woman is not a porn star or a bikini mannequin or a movie character. She's real. She has beautiful stretch marks on her hips and cute little dimples on her booty. Girls, don't ever fool yourself by thinking you have to fit a certain mold to be loved and appreciated. There is a guy out there who is going to celebrate you for exactly who you are, someone who will love you like I love my Sarah. || photo cred: @kaileehjudd
And in response, on August 5th, 2017, Tess Holliday posted on Instagram:
When Maria Kang, a Sacramento, CA mother of three and fitness advocate, came across Holliday’s Instagram attempted clapback, she took a rather controversial stand about the issue on Facebook. Kang wrote,
“Did anyone read this story about a husband loving his wife regardless of size? I thought it was a sweet tribute of someone loving their spouse despite any standard. When I see someone like Tess Holliday criticize this, it’s disheartening. Tess is an obese model (not thick, plus size or curvy) who has popularized the term #effyourbeautystandards and should promote positivity in all forms.”
Which raises the question of what exactly does it mean to be body positive?
Here at Xehar, our mission is very simple. Our goal is to build #AConfidentYou by giving women of all shapes, sizes, and backgrounds access to a variety of stylish, well fitting, and affordable clothes. We all know there’s nothing better than being able to wake up, choose something to wear that will make you feel confident enough to accomplish your goals and conquer the world. Xehar strives to support positive body image and helping women feel confident by making fashionable clothes accessible to women. Xehar wants to take the next step towards creating a #FashionRevolution by redefining what it means to be truly confident.
A lot of plus size women have experienced the struggles of trying to gain confidence when everyone is telling us that we would be prettier if we “just lost some weight”. One of our own curvy models Amanda shared, “As a plus size model who’s been on the upwards of 300 pounds at times in my life, and who was told by a past partner that he had become embarrassed to be seen with me due to my physical condition or that I could be “so beautiful” if I would just lose weight, I find this man’s attempt at adoring his beautiful wife endearing and very powerful.”
On top of offering all women a variety of affordable and chic clothes, Xehar is proactive within the body positive movement in many ways. Xehar maintains its own blogs that strives to keep its readers up to date on whats going within the fashion industry and offers ways to build #AConfidentYou through informative style blog posts. Additionally, Xehar recently launched its first Body Positive Ambassador Program with curvy model Laura Brioschi in order to continue furthering the body positive movement through a collaboration collection, Laura by Xehar, which has been well received!
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As demand for inclusion continues within plus size fashion, it’s important to address topics that might not be comfortable to discuss, but that have a tremendous impact on people. Left and right we’re told to love ourselves just the way we are, that we are beautiful no matter what, and that confidence comes from within. While everything is always easier said than done, we all have to start somewhere when it comes to building confidence. Amanda adds that, “We have a long way to go in changing the “standards” of what media represents as beautiful and attractive, but I believe we are making progress. People are coming together from all over the world to support the body positive movement, so it would be my suggestion that we don’t criticize those who are trying to join this movement and love up a little on their significant other!”
When it comes to body positivity and continuing the growth within the community, it’s important to keep in mind as many people as possible. Not only is it important, but it is necessary, to be aware and respectful of the fact that what gives Maria Kang confidence may not be what works for Tess Holliday. Another point that Amanda makes is, ” There are so many individuals who don’t have supportive significant others and I think it is important that people see that there are caring, supportive people out there that will love you for every inch of who you are today!”
When we keep this in mind, it allows room for progress, which is what will allow us to create #AConfidentYou and reinforce the fact that #CurvyIsNotACrime. As we know, Rome wasn’t built in day, therefore we can’t expect the same from the body positive movement and the plus size fashion industry. However, we should keep these conversations in mind and use them to move forward in order to create better communities, healthy mindsets, and offer a variety of options that can bring confidence to an audience of people that have been relatively ignored up until now. The #FashionRevolution can only move forward if we take the time to love ourselves and curate #AConfidentYou <3
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