There’s a lot of talk these days with women supporting other women. While I completely support this sentiment, I have a hard time following it at times. Don’t get me wrong, I love strong independent women,
I think it’s amazing how far we’ve come along. Never in my life have I felt that I couldn’t do something because of my sex. Yet why is it so hard (not always) to form true bonds between strong women the same way two strong men can immediately bond over their individual power? Is it just something we can’t help? Almost a biological need to be suspicious of other women, is it biological that we aren’t as willing to trust one another yet be fooled by men over and over again. From my perspective, we become threatened of others success. But why? Why can’t we just feel good about ourselves and also support others without constantly comparing ourselves? Even at my most powerful, when I’m feeling on top of the world, something can happen, a simple mistake and I immediately feel like I’m not good enough and “Soon people will also find out I’m not good enough and then they’ll know I’m an imposter!”
This ladies, is what I called the imposter complex, the exact definition is: a concept describing individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.
That sucks and almost all successful women feel this way at least at some points in their life. But them most important thing is to acknowledge you are not alone and that we ARE powerful, we ARE successful and its OK to make mistakes. You are like no one else and you should never feel the need to be anyone else but yourself.
I’ve always kept my friend circle small and that ok too but I’ve learned to open my heart a little more and start trusting other women who are very similar to me.
Tell me in the comments below, is it hard to form real friendships with other women too?