For our second Interview Spotlight of the year is the beautiful Loralyee, her avatar on Insta is absolutely stunning. She first reminded me of a vixen, the girl knows who she is and she’s not afraid to show it. From a young age, she learned how to deal with adversity and she came out with grace and confidence, not to mention a killer wardrobe. I asked her to answer some questions for me and here were her answers!
Tell us where you grew up and what kind of childhood did you have?
I grew up in Manhattan New York. I grew up in a LBGTQ Family with my two moms and a step sister and brother.
My whole family was into fashion. My step mom would try and dress my sister and I in the same clothes because we were the same age. It was hard because my sister was taller and skinny, and I was short and chubby. It was an awkward phase for me.
In elementary school, I had a very short haircut like my mom and I wanted to dress like my mom. When I was younger, I didn’t understand why my mom wore “boys clothes” but I wanted to be just like her so I dressed up in the same clothes.
This caused a lot of confusion for the other kids. They would make fun of me and ask why I didn’t wear “girls clothes”. Why did I have two moms and no dad? It was normal for me so I didn’t understand how to explain it.
By middle school, I learned my lesson. I didn’t want to be bullied any longer, so I would wear the best sneakers and newest fashion that came out so that people would like me and I would be more popular. I became a activist and public speaker for the LGBTQ community, where I spoke on panels around the US, to talk about the experiences as a child of lesbian parents.
By high school I was popular, I started dressing more girly and my confidence went up. Although I transferred high school’s in the middle of the four years, I was still popular everywhere I went. I always dressed up in the best clothes, and I became very confident. It became a part of my personality.
In high school, being confident as a teenager doesn’t always seem right, People used to assume I was “full of myself” or cocky. They couldn’t understand that I was starting my journey of loving and accepting my body. I had to learn to express myself and spread awareness that it’s ok to be confident at a young age. I can remember now telling my classmates, “Why don’t you dress up? Why is being fat a bad thing?” Im actually really proud of my teenage self.
When was the first time you realized your worth?
Its hard to answer that because It has been a up and down rollercoaster. In high school, I started to “realize my worth” when I started dressing up and feeling more confident in my clothes but realizing your worth is way more than fashion.
I have been in many abusive relationships because I didn’t know my worth. I thought because I was fat, I had to settle for whoever wanted me at the time.
Realizing your worth is a constant project. You have to realize your worth in all different aspects: In work, in social settings, in fashion, in relationships, in friendships and within yourself.
I honestly didn’t realize my worth in a relationship until I met my now husband. Realizing the way he treated me with so much respect, made me understand what true love is.
I also truly believe that you cannot fall in love or be ready for love until you are truly okay and content with yourself. So although I know my worth in many aspects, I am still learning how to find my worth in society.
How important is a sense of humor when dealing with hard times?
Hard times will always be there. It is so important to be able to see the rainbow through the storm. I always tell myself, “it could be worse”. It’s important to live each day and accept what you are going through because this two shall pass.
Tell us about your favorite go-to outfit that makes you feel ultra chic and sexy?
I absolutely love stockings with dresses! It makes me feel so sexy! I also love off the shoulder sweaters and thigh high boots! I love taking tags off of a new outfit and rocking it!
What’s the best advice for self-care?
Self-care is more than bubble baths and getting our nails done. It’s taking time to turn my phone off, open and read a good book and just be in the moment. It is so hard for influencers to not constantly check our phones or emails. We have to take more time for self-care. Take a walk by the bridge, go to a spa with my best friend, BE IN THE MOMENT!
What are you up to currently?
Currently I am working on a bunch of projects. I am taking a break from constant photoshoots and focusing on making a change in the plus- size community. I have opened up my styling services. I help people find outfits that fit them and make them feel beautiful. I am also creating more lifestyle promotions for brands. I want to write more, read more and let my creativity run free.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
In 5 years, I hopefully will be done writing my book, I will have my own line with brands that I love. I will be a homeowner with 2 children and be living happily ever after.
What’s the one piece of advice you could give your younger self?
This too shall pass! As a teenager, I always felt like what I was going through was the end of the world. I want my younger self to know that there’s a bigger world out there.
Who would you say is your biggest inspiration?
I always say that my mom is my bigger inspiration because she is my hero. She is the strongest person I know.
In the industry my biggest inspiration is Tess Holiday. I love everything she stands for, that fact that she is able to juggle being a mom, a wife, author and a model is amazing!
Don’t forget to follow Loralyee @ www.instagram.com/loralyee