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Xehar Fashion Fairy Spotlight – Tracy

It’s that time again! One of Xehar’s hand picked Fashion Fairies is teaching us all about confidence, the importance of body positivity, and what keeps her going. Tracy Griffith, also known as @curves_by_tracy on Instagram, spills her guts on all of this and more in this week’s Fashion Fairy Spotlight. Get to know Tracy!

The Importance of Being Confident as a Woman…

I think we are reaching a really amazing time for women. We are at a point where we are letting the world know that we can do everything men can do, that we deserve respect, and we are building a community of women that support one another. I think as we begin to be more confident, we will start to speak up more, for ourselves and for other women. I truly believe there is nothing stronger than a group of women determined to rise. Confidence enables a women to lift up other women. As I became more confident, I desired to be an ally to other women, to encourage and support them. At this point we are unstoppable and there are no limits to what we can achieve.

 

What Makes Tracy Confident…

I think I am confident because, despite being afraid of things, I go for them anyway. I let fear hold me back a lot in the past and I realized that being uncomfortable is better than not living and experiencing all that life has to offer. I feel like I am good at speaking up for myself and asking for what I need and want. It is very important to understand that just because I am confident does not mean that I do not have moments of insecurity. Confidence comes from fighting through the insecurities and going for it! If you push past the fear and insecurity, you will be on the other side of whatever the obstacle was feeling like Superwoman.

 

What Keeps her Going When Things Get Tough…

My Instagram keeps me going! When I get on Instagram and I see so many amazing, inspirational women, I feel so empowered. I also have some emails and messages saved from people telling me that I have helped them to be more confident…when I read those I know that I am on the right track and I have to keep pushing forward.

 

The Importance of Having a Community that Shows Love and Support…

I come from a family of strong women and my mom and sisters have always been such a support system for me. We are all very different from one another but have all made the choice to support each other in whatever we decide to do. I now have an extremely supportive group of friends that are positive influences in my life. When I started my Instagram, I needed to get to know others that do what I do so that I could talk to them and get some advice and help. I sought out other women that inspire me and now have several friends that support me in that area.

I know not everyone is born into a supportive family, or has a great friend group. I think if someone is not feeling supported, then they need to speak up and actively seek out people that make them feel empowered and confident. And above all else, we need to know deep inside that we can accomplish anything we put our minds to, regardless of what the world has to say about it.

 

Tracy’s Advice to Someone Who is Being Bullied in School or Online…

My advice is to reach out to someone that you trust like a parent, a friend, or a teacher. It is so important for people to feel like they have an ally in a situation like that, even if it is just one person. I also think that social media can play an amazing role in this. It is so important for people to find others that are like them and social media can provide that for kids these days. Don’t be afraid to safely seek out people that are going through similar struggles. Finding plus size women on Instagram in my twenties helped me significantly and I think social media can really be helpful to kids these days who are struggling with anything. I want to stress that I do think it is extremely important to find a trusted adult and let them know what is going on.

 

How She Builds a Connection with Her Audience…

I try to be as genuine as possible in my social media encounters with my followers. I really like to respond to my followers and I love to follow them back because they inspire me too! I always promote products that I really believe in and that will promote self-love and confidence. People are very smart and they can tell when someone is being fake. I want to be real about my struggles and also offer my help to those that may need it. This is something I am constantly working on, I always want to make a better connection with people so that this community can grow stronger.

 

Overcoming Negativity…

This is something that is constantly evolving for me. I love finding new techniques to overcome negative thoughts and anxiety. Recently I started using affirmations and it has really helped me. Affirmations put positive thoughts through your head repeatedly and leave less room for negative thoughts. I find that after I repeat affirmations I am in a more positive frame of mind and tend to have better thoughts about myself. I also like to do something that gives me confidence: put on some cute makeup, dress up cute, take some beautiful pictures of myself, or get out and do something new and kind of scary. Nothing builds confidence like overcoming a challenge!

 

Ways Tracy has Overcome Body Shaming, Especially on Social Media…

The best thing I ever did was to start ignoring the body-shamers. I used to reply back and try to argue with them, but then I realized that it was disturbing my peace and causing me to feel negatively for a long time afterwards. I currently block certain keywords from my comments so that those comments are not seen and I immediately delete hateful comments and block the user that made the comment. I am building a community based on positivity and someone else who is struggling with their own self-image could also be affected by those comments. I choose to make my social media a positive space and I choose to ignore the haters. When I do see comments that bother me or hurt me, I remember that most of the time people make those comments because they are deeply hurt inside.

 

Her Advice on How to Deal with Body Negativity from Family Members…

It can be really difficult when a family member is making us feel bad about ourselves, especially if we are in a situation where we cannot remove that person from our lives. My first suggestion is to always talk openly about your feelings. As hard as it may be, it sometimes can make a big difference and someone may not be aware of how they are making you feel.

If you aren’t able to talk to the person that is making you feel this way, then I would suggest to talk to another trusted person: friend, family member, or teacher. As I have said before, it is important to understand that you are not alone and that you have allies out there to help you through your problems.

If possible, I would suggest seeing a therapist or counselor to help you deal with these feelings. People can always reach out to me as well if they need to talk about something like this. I am always here to offer support for anyone that needs it!

 

Advice on Spreading Awareness About Body Positivity…

I truly believe that everyone has a unique story to tell and that there are people out there who need to hear your story and will get strength from you sharing your struggle and how you deal with it. My advice is for someone to talk to people about what they have been through and how they overcome that. Some people were bullied, some have eating disorders, some have been in abusive relationships…there are so many people out there that can identify with each of these issues. Be genuine! Tell your unique story because it is valuable. Turn your struggle into someone else’s blessing.

 

Tracy’s Body Positive Movement…

I struggled with my body image for a long time. I remember taking diet pills for two years straight in college. I would go from taking diet pills to gaining 30 pounds and then starving myself again. I remember missing out on so many things because I didn’t think I looked good enough, or because I thought that people were judging me. I felt like my life would begin once I lost weight, that it would solve all my problems. Finally I broke the cycle and started making baby steps toward loving myself (the baby steps are still happening every day by the way). My first step was following plus size women on Instagram! As I share my life genuinely with my followers, they can see that you can go out and do all those things that you wanted to. You do not have to have a perfect body to enjoy your life. Better yet, you are already perfect exactly how you are!

 

Don’t forget to follow Tracy on Instragram @curves_by_tracy to learn even more about becoming #AConfidentYou!

 

 

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